You’re a mum, you absolutely adore being a mum but you want so much more. You’re stuck in a rut. You want a career but you crave to be at home with your family. I mean, come on, you didn’t have those kids to not see them and be with them, right? You want to get out of a rut so you can follow your dreams
Mama, I know exactly how you’re feeling!
You want financial freedom and a happy family life.
You want it all.
You know that you have so much to offer. But you’re stuck at home or stuck in a job you hate. You’re being held back from reaching your true potential and the annoying thing is that you know it!
You sit, numb and fretful, feeling like you’re stuck in a never-ending cycle of what-ifs.
You might be in a situation where you need an income to support your family or you need a purpose to do what you love and want to earn an income while doing it. You want to feel like you’ve achieved something. You want to feel good about yourself while doing something you love.
But, you don’t know where to go from here.
You know you have to do something, you know you need to make a change.
What’s stopping you?
Is it lack of motivation or fear of failure and self-doubt?
Does this sound like you? Then today is your lucky day.
I am going to give you the tools you need, that have worked for me that are going to help you to get out of the rut that’s holding you back from reaching your full potential!
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TAKE A LOOK AT YOURSELF
Whenever I feel like something is weighing me down or I feel unmotivated, I take time out to reflect on what is making me feel like this. Find the root cause. Maybe your job or your environment is making you feel unmotivated or uninspired and mental exhaustion has left you unable to reach your full potential.
Once the kids are in bed or if you can find 10 minutes spare, go for a walk or sit and do some deep thinking. Take out a notebook and write that sh*t down in detail! Let it all flow out…
- why you are feeling stuck in a rut.
- how you are feeling.
- why you feel how you do.
- what do you want to change.
- what do you want to happen.
- how do you want to feel.
By allowing yourself to free your thoughts and feelings, you gain a level of self-awareness that allows you to identify the causes and feelings, allowing you to identify ways to get out of your rut that is making you feel trapped.
You can also ask what role you played in your situation. Your choices and belief-system can have an effect on your perspective over yourself and the world as a whole.
Your perspective is everything and there are times in my life where things would’ve worked out better if I simply changed how I thought.
I’ve had times where if I was more grateful for the things in my life or if I would’ve shifted my mindset about myself then I probably would’ve attracted more positivity in my life.
ASK YOURSELF WHAT YOU CAN CONTROL
There are certain things in your life that you have no control over, what so ever. That’s life.
One of the first things you must do is accept that you can’t control everything. Come to the realisation that you need to let go of the things we can’t control and accept them for what they are. You need to use your energies on the things you can control, the things you can change.
Look at your situation and ask yourself “How can I improve MY circumstances?”
Once you accept who you are and that your situation is what it is, that you can then you can see the areas of your life that you can change for the better.
WHAT DO YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE?
If you are feeling unhappy, unfulfilled or unsatisfied, you know that your situation isn’t for you.
Ask yourself ”who you are and what you want to achieve”?
I don’t know about you, but I find that if I overthink things, I am more reluctant to take the action to get out of the rut I am in that’s keeping me from living my life and reaching my potential. Because it gives me more time to dwell on the what-ifs and my negative inner voice starts to surface. (yes, I do have thoughts of self doubt from time to time)
Over the years I have discovered if I needed to quit wasting time and energy thinking about it.
You need to get out of your comfort zone and just do it!
Read my story on how I got out of my comfort zone, bit the bullet and just did it!
WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT IT?
So you’ve identified how and why you’re feeling the way you are, what the cause is, what you need to change and what you want to achieve.
Now the question is, “What are you going to do about it?”
Remember, you are in control!
Make a plan. Brainstorm. Make lists. Research.
It’s time to take responsibility and take action. There’s no point in feeling like pants, wanting something, then not doing something about it.
Get out of your comfort zone, because it’s that comfort zone that is holding you back. Quit making excuses, complaining about your situation or telling yourself that you can’t do it! – I hold my hands up. I have been more than guilty of all of these.
It’s easier said than done!
But, what you need to do is fight against that negative voice in your head that’s telling you that you don’t have the strength to change your situation, that you don’t deserve it, that you’re not good enough or that it’s too hard.
If you struggle with this, write down 5 things you are good at or have received a compliment for in your life. It could be a piece of work you did when you were at school, closing a deal at work or your kids telling you that your blueberry muffins are delicious.
Do this over a week and see how you feel.
Only you can change your situation, no one else! You!
TAKE A LOOK AROUND YOU
The space around you, your environment and atmosphere
Think about it, if you are in a messy, disorganised, cluttered environment, then that energy is going to reflect on your mood. I know when
Now if I’m in a tidy, organised room I feel fresh, clean, inspired and motivated to take action in your life, to pursue your goals.
Sometimes all you need to do is clean up a little, rearrange your furniture, buy some new décor or refresh the walls.
For me, this is a massive factor. It is amazing what a little bit of inspiration can do. I find that inspiration is the one thing that keeps me and has kept me motivated to change something in my life. Inspirational quotes are my thing. Whenever I’m feeling and big emotion, I find a quote to inspire me. I am also a great lover of self-help books and inspirational life stories.
Get out into the world, find a new interest, hobby, class. Be open to trying new things and open to new opportunities. It will build your confidence as you are learning new things about yourself and the world.
Find your tribe. This could be in real life or online such as Facebook groups. Surround yourself with like-minded, inspirational, motivational people. People who bring out the best in you.Do you feel like you're stuck in a rut and don't know how to get out? Go and check out this amazing post! Click To Tweet
This is the number one, most important tip I have to give you to help get you out of a rut. Yet in the past, this is the one thing I have struggled with massively. To be honest, I still do at times. But as you all know- if you are a regular reader, I am massive on self-development. So, it’s something that I will be working on the rest of my life.
Let me tell you what I have learnt.
When you love yourself, you open yourself up to be allowed to be loved. You learn to set clear and healthy boundaries. Because you know your self-worth and you know what you want. (you planned it earlier)
You gain contagious confidence and positivity that reflects onto the people around you. The attitudes of others towards you will change. Remember positivity attracts positivity.
I find that telling myself positive affirmations every morning really helps me get out of my negative headspace. Affirmations are words of emotional support or encouragement and if you tell yourself them enough, you begin to believe them. It could take weeks, it could take years, but eventually you do believe them.
As silly as this may sound. Start by saying positive things to yourself in the mirror a few times every morning, like “I am a successful entrepreneur,” “I am an amazing mum,” or “I am confident.” Try saying things that you want to accomplish as if they are already happening.
Write down 7 that you can tell yourself for each day for the next week.
By doing this, you change the way you perceive yourself and the world around you.
Now I have given you the foundations to get yourself out of a rut. Go and give it a try!