I am THAT Mum, And I Am Proud!

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Let me ask you, what is your definition of ‘THAT Mum’?

Maybe it’s the mum who is pushy? Or the mum that’s always late? Maybe, Is it the mum who is always screaming at her kids? 

Whoever THAT Mum is, she stands out, she is different, and she doesn’t give a damn what anyone else thinks! She’s in her own little Mum bubble, doing what she thinks is best for her kids and she means well. 

She is the mum that believes in her child, that will do what it takes to get her child the help and support they need to have an equal chance to reach their full potential. 

I am proud to say that…

I am THAT Mum!

I can safely say that I am the only person in this world that will be an advocate for my children and the only one in this world that will have my boys back 100%. 

I never used to be THAT Mum. Oh no, I used to be a walkover. Quiet, wouldn’t say boo to a goose. I’d keep my opinions to myself. Go with the flow and shrug things off.

All that changed when I became a Mum, but it became more apparent that I was THAT Mum when it came to light I had children with additional needs.

You see, from my own personal experience, if you have children with additional needs that aren’t visible. Like in my case, children who aren’t, shall we say ‘neuro-typical’,  who struggle in school, in society and in everyday situations that you and me take for granted. These children can be judged based on their behaviour and mannerisms. 

I have found that professionals such as teachers, doctors etc can be very judgmental, using their personal opinions and not their professional opinions when dealing with your child….and yourself as a parent.  Some even passing you off as ‘THAT over exaggerated parent’ resulting in me questioning myself as a parent. Or passing your child off as ‘THAT naughty kid’ or they make up some ridiculous conclusion to your childs behaviour instead of listening to the facts.


Now believe me when I tell you I have heard my fair share of professionals conclusions relating to my children’s behaviours, struggles, mannerisms etc. Here are some of my favourites…

  • He’s left handed
  • It must be your childminding that makes them like this
  • He is the second child
  • You have a 4 bedroomed house
  • He is the middle child of 5
  • The fact you work from home

Sounds ridiculous, right?

These are the people who we trust to be able to help and support our children. But please, don’t get me wrong, not all professionals are like this! There are those individuals that take their job seriously and have a passion for helping and understanding these kids! These are the ones that are worth their weight in gold! They actually believe in these kids!

Over the years, I, myself as THAT Mum has argued, cried and got frustrated with professionals, as they wouldn’t listened to my concerns about my sons, only for me to be right. 

I am THAT Mum that will follow up when a professional says that they will call me back and don’t. I will follow up letters and appointments. I am THAT Mum that will make sure my boys One Plans and Care Plans are being followed by ourselves and school. I am THAT Mum who is more than willing to work with professionals to get my children the help and support they need.

As THAT Mum, I am not trying to be awkward, or defensive, I am basically fighting for my children and their rights.  

I am a great believer that a parent know their child better than anyone else in this world! 

One thing I have learnt, as THAT Mum is to do your research! No one will signpost you to things such as the SEND code of practice, advocate services, parent carer services, useful websites etc. Be able to back up any evidence you have. 

So really, the message I am trying to get across is, don’t be afraid to be THAT Mum. Believe in yourself and your child. As long as you know that you are doing the best you can for your child and have their best interests at heart then you be THAT Mum and do whatever you need to do to get your child the help and support they need. Because your child deserves it!

Are you THAT Mum? I’d love to hear your story. 

Want to know a little more around our Additional Needs journey? Check out my post 

For more of my Rants and Rambles got to www.thismummyrocks.com/category/rants-and-rambles 

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  1. emma : Ettie and Me
    October 4, 2018 / 1:51 pm

    I love this! I also am THAT MUM and so so proud. Before I was always too worried about offending anyone to say anything controversial but as soon as I became a Mum I sing their praises to anyone who’ll listen . A great message to be sharing #coolmumclub

    • October 4, 2018 / 9:48 pm

      Thank you fro your comment. It gives children the trust and confidence that they have someone behind them xx

  2. October 4, 2018 / 3:44 pm

    I love this. Woe betide the person who pokes a mummy bear!

  3. October 4, 2018 / 5:01 pm

    Great post

  4. October 4, 2018 / 8:44 pm

    I wrote a really long response that just vanished. By all means be proud and be your child’s advocate but don’t be afraid to listen to criticism too. I child who never learns from his faults takes them into adulthood. My youngest’s 10 year old class doesn’t have age appropriate behaviour and it’s because I don’t think they’re ever pulled up on it (because ‘they’re boys’, ‘he has ADHD’ and the ‘The teacher doesn’t have control’ when actually they’re just rude and they know they can get away with it). #Stayclassymama

    • October 4, 2018 / 9:45 pm

      Thank you for your comment. I totally understand what you’re saying. I will be the first to admit if my children are in the wrong. They may not be ‘neuro-typical’ but they need to learn how to behave and be held accountable. I will not let my boys use their issues as an excuse! lol They know better than that. xx

  5. Mummy here and there
    October 4, 2018 / 8:53 pm

    Fair play, it is hard to find confidence as a parent especially when the so called professionals look down on you. They don’t see all, only in one setting which makes It even more frustrating X #coolmumclub

    • October 4, 2018 / 9:46 pm

      Thanks for your comment lovely. It is very frustrating. But there are those professionals out there that ‘get it’ and are understanding xx

  6. October 5, 2018 / 9:55 am

    I love this post. It’s so important to believe in yourself and believe in your child….here’s to being THAT mums and thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub x

  7. October 6, 2018 / 7:39 am

    You are obviously very committed and this shines through. Who cares for being ‘that mum’? As you say, you are there for your kids no matter what. I have to be the awkward one to ask though. I also hope that dad is ‘that dadt too. #thatdridaylinky

  8. October 7, 2018 / 6:42 pm

    Most important you are there for your kids as a dad that’s exactly how I am Thank you for linking to #Thatfridaylinky please come back next week

    • October 8, 2018 / 11:05 am

      I certainly am! I didn’t have these kids for fun. Thanks for visiting. I will be back on #thatfridaylinky this week!

  9. October 7, 2018 / 8:59 pm

    It sounds like you’re a great THAT mum! I’m not sure I’m quite so outspoken but probably should be! #MMBC
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    • October 8, 2018 / 11:04 am

      Thanks for popping by! I can be outspoken but it’s only because I want my boys to have the best opportunities they have rights to. There’s a lot of judgement out there. xx

  10. Twicemicrowaved tea
    October 8, 2018 / 11:47 am

    This is such a good post. I’ve also started to speak up a lot more since I’ve had children. I used to be really quiet and a bit of a pushover before (and probably still am if it’s something that’s only going to affect me), but now, if it’s anything to do with my children I’m not afraid to say whatever I need to, to stand up for them. #stayclassymama

  11. October 10, 2018 / 8:54 pm

    My mum says I am that mum and cringes when I fire off emails to the school but I am proud to stand up for my children! Thanks for linking up with #stayclassymama

  12. October 11, 2018 / 9:52 am

    I think something primal happens to us when we become parents and need to protect and support our kids. I can only imagine how much more you must feel this when you’re alai fighting for your child’s needs to be met. Kudos to you for flying the flag, and thanks for linking up with #ItsOK xx

  13. October 13, 2018 / 4:14 pm

    This is a BRILLIANT post Claire and well done you for being THAT amazing mum! It’s tough to stand up for your beliefs and your kids against the ‘norm’ as a mother (I sometimes struggle with it too) but we must. As you said it’s essential our children know we’ve got their backs. Thanks for linking up this amazing post with the #itsok linky.

      • October 16, 2018 / 12:43 pm

        Ah, thanks love that is so kind. And this post was so awesome it got you the Featured Blogger crown!!! Go grab your badge and display it proudly on this post:)

    • October 14, 2018 / 9:44 pm

      It is true, I’ve found lots of professionals use their personal opinion over their professional opinion at times. I want to change this and have people understand these kids

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