What You Need To Know About Planning A Funeral
Planning a funeral is undoubtedly one of the hardest things to do, not least because you are in a highly emotional place of mind while doing it. But sooner or later it is something everyone has to face, and how easy it is to get through is often directly related to how smooth the going is. To that end, here are some things you need to know about planning a funeral that will hopefully give you somewhere to start from.
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Dealing With Funeral Directors
The funeral directors are your first port of call. This is where a large number of the decisions will be made, like where you want the service to be conducted and at what time, whether you want a cremation or a burial, and if the latter then what kind of coffin do you want, and so on. The problem here is that time can be short, and you might not have to come up with some answers on the spot, so it is best to be aware of the kind of things you will be asked for form an opinion before meeting with them.
A useful tip with funeral directors is that if you request a meeting in your own home, they will often come out to meet you, which can be preferable to an office meeting. It is also a very little hassle to change funeral directors if you are unhappy with the service you are receiving.
Managing The Service
It is possible to leave things like flower arrangements and the music to the venue conducting the funeral. However, this can lead to your money being eaten up and ending in a rather impersonal result. It is usually better to decide these matters yourself or delegate them to someone you trust and who knew the person very well.
And then there is the order of service. This will be handed out to all the guests, and it is also an opportunity to tailor the ceremony to the person. Jokes can be written inside the booklet or photographs included. It will also include the hymns you have chosen to sing. Usually, two hymns are sung at a funeral, but you can pick more if you would like.
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A question the funeral directors will probably ask is, “how many cars would you like?” and this depends entirely on whether guests would rather drive themselves to the service or be chauffeured. The latter can be expensive, and usually only two limousines are hired for a funeral.
Needless to say, there will be a lot of upset people at the service, and many of them may ask if they can help out in any way. If you are happy to delegate responsibilities to certain close friends or relatives, you can do so, but a good fall-back option is usually to ask them to help make the food for the funeral tea. This means you don’t have to cater it all yourself and they feel useful for helping out.