Why I Am Worried About Our Children’s Futures

Ok, so most of you will know that I am Mum to 5 boys and I’m also a childminder. I obviously like kids.

I am a great believer that children are our future.

So the other day when I bumped into one of the teaching assistants from my children’s school, I was surprised to hear that she was leaving the school due to funding cuts.

Now, I am more than aware that over the last couple of years the government have made funding cuts in all sectors across the country.

But I am really concerned about our children’s futures. So far the cut backs they are making to education and health care have affected my own family and no doubt hundreds of thousands of others too.

Our Story

I have 2 sons who are on the SEN register at their schools. Both for two totally different reasons.

The cuts started to affect us 3 and a half years ago when I had both my sons referred to CAMHS. I knew that this wasn’t going to be an easy or short journey. But over the 2 years we were in the CAMHS service, the service we received was appalling. In the first 18 months, we had 3 key workers leave due to staff cuts, professionals leaving the service due to stress and no doubt other issues. We experienced miscommunications, to the point we had to start the process 3 times due lack of communications, lost paperwork and from my opinion, poor organisation. One wait for a new key worker took over 6 months.

Now, as a parent, you all know that you would do anything to give your child the best in life. You would do anything you could to help and support them.

Am I right?

Well it got to a point that one of my sons was really struggling, putting strain on him, myself and our family. So obviously, as any mother would, I sought help and support for my child and family. CAMHS didn’t have the staff to be able to discuss my sons. I ended up contacting our local MP. Extreme, I know. I shouldn’t have had to do it.  But I knew that we weren’t the only family struggling and not getting heard. I felt I needed to take a stand.

Why I Am Worried About Our Children's Futures?

Miraculously, all the appointments and assessments we had been waiting for fell onto our door mat. But by now, I was portrayed as ‘That parent’ by professionals. Our name had been ‘blacklisted’ and the attitude of the professionals changed towards myself. It shouldn’t have been the case. I was made to feel that my sons issues were my fault, my parenting. But I went with my gut instinct. I knew it wasn’t my fault. Within 2 months of our MP writing to CAMHS and acknowledging our case, my sons were discharged from CAMHS with letters of advice and a referral to our local authority Early Help team.

What now?

One of my sons was given additional help at school with the support of teaching assistants. I was over the moon that he was being taken seriously now we had a diagnosis. He was getting support. But it shouldn’t have been such a battle.

So like I said, we were referred to the Early Help team at our local authority. That will be a year ago now. Within a few months we received our first of many appointments – a general meet and greet. Upon meeting us and our son, our key worker asked why we had been discharged and that he felt my son still needed support from CAMHS – and so did I. As it was, our key worker knew the psychologist that did my sons assessments and decided the outcome of diagnosis. So he rang the psychologist at CAMHS to discuss our son, only to be told that we had been discharged and could not access the CAMHS service for at least another year!

As you can imagine, I was fuming. We had a little boy and his family who were struggling.

Why I Am Worried About Our Children's Futures?

I have to say that our Early Help key worker has been worth his weight in gold, even to the point that he has made weekend appointments to see us.

Over the last year that our family have been working with our key worker we have seen a large amount of cut backs. To the point that our key worker alone has over 50 families on his case load. That’s a massive case load for one person to take on. The staffing in his team has been decreased to only 3 members of staff. Access to resources have been slashed due to funding. It has taken us a year to get to the stage of starting Theraplay.

A Whole Year!

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So that’s 3 years we have waited to start any type of therapy for my son! Goodness knows how long Therapy is going to take as our key worker is one of very few in the Early Help service that can present and assess Theraplay.

Over the years, I have worked with both my boys schools SENCO teams to be able to get them the help and support they need.

But, again, valuable services have been taken away and school budgets have been reduced. Meaning that children needing support are finding it harder to receive it and are falling through the net.

The Reason Why I Am Worried About Our Children’s Future

Firstly, we will all know that having a new baby or young children can be overwhelming at times. That we need some type of support from time to time. Health visitors are usually your first port of call. But in my local area, the health visitors have been slashed. Along with access to the Sure Start Children’s centres. I personally found that access to these valuable services and resources a God send. In fact, I met some of my very good friends at a breast feeding group at a Sure Start Centre. The Children’s centres were life lines for a lot of parents, allowing families to access resources to help their child’s development.

Parents are a child’s first educator and if parents aren’t able to access the resources and support they need, then their children are going to suffer in all areas – including health, development and even mental health.

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Why I Am Worried About Our Children's Futures?

Children will fall through the net if parents don’t have anywhere to go for help and advice.

As I mentioned from my own personal experience, waiting lists are getting longer.

Valuable services are being cut that could have potentially helped and supported a child and family.

If a child doesn’t get the help and support they need to access early on, they could be potentially be more likely to have mental health issues such as anxiety and depression. Also self esteem, developmental, social and emotional issues.

We will end up with children who are potentially ‘broken’. They will be less than likely to achieve their full potential without the help and support. Meaning that their education will suffer and potentially they will be unemployable in the future due to mental health, social and emotional issues.

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This scares the living daylights out of me!

We really need to invest in services for our children so that each and every child can reach their full potential and have a bright future.

Because I know about these cuts I am very one the ball and have educated myself on such things as The SEN Code Of Practice and where I can find resources. But other families aren’t aware of these things.

Changes need to be made. The Government really need to invest in all of our children for the sake of their futures and that of this country.

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18 Comments

  1. July 18, 2018 / 4:24 pm

    It’s so shocking how the cuts are affecting children and education, and your story just shows how difficult everything has become. I just hope you get the help needed at some point and the local authorities get more funding in the future, although I realise this is probably a pipe dream! 😞 #dreamteam

  2. July 19, 2018 / 9:02 am

    The state of the country right now scares me, there are budget cuts everywhere but the Government and NHS big wigs are earning fortunes, giving themselves pay rises and annual bonuses. I’m so frightened that the NHS will dissolve and then the costs of healthcare will bankrupt us all! Imagine my bill for a 2 week hospital stay, c-section and two NICU stays plus four weeks of tube feedings support??? I was told the tube feeding support is a post code lottery also!!! Actually so shocking!!
    Thank you for sharing this with us at #TriumphantTales, I hope to see you back next week!
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  3. July 19, 2018 / 1:02 pm

    It’s all such a worry right now … We help run the local foodbank and we’re gearing up for summer when demand is highest as so many of the support services and free meals that families rely on to help them get by stop

  4. Jeremy@ThirstyDaddy
    July 19, 2018 / 1:36 pm

    Its a mess over here in the States also. Our Education Secretary has absolutely no idea about how the real world works and says some things so completely asinine it really makes one worried. It seems all too often the people making these decisions have priorities completely out of line with what they should be #triumphanttlales

  5. July 20, 2018 / 2:00 pm

    I worry about my son’s future too. The unknowns are what gets to me the most like many of us. #thatfridaylinky

  6. Alice V
    July 21, 2018 / 2:11 am

    education is always the first thing to get cut and then come cuts to health and wellness. Why does it have to be this way? IDK but you would think that logic would tell people that cutting these kinds of programs hurt more than it helps. #Blogstravaganza

  7. July 22, 2018 / 9:21 am

    It’s really frightening how long wait lists are. It makes you wonder how many people gave up in that time. #DreamTeam

  8. Jo - Pickle & Poppet
    July 22, 2018 / 9:31 pm

    It is so worrying that the cuts come out areas that are so important and it seems to only be getting worse! #Blogstravaganza

  9. July 23, 2018 / 3:50 pm

    It really is frightening, I honestly believe that they make cuts in all of the wrong places. Thanks so much for sharing with #Blogstravaganza xx

  10. July 23, 2018 / 4:19 pm

    It’s scary as not all Mums may have the knowledge and determination that you have hun and you shouldn’t have had to fight for it for so long. It is shocking what you have had to go through just to get the support for your children. Thanks for sharing with #bloggersbest x
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  11. July 30, 2018 / 1:31 pm

    Everyone is worried about our children’s future, It is shocking what you have had to go through just to get the support for your children. Here at https://qanda.typicalstudent.org you can get more info about children’s education.

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